What I like most about these tips is that it says, "Let your partner help. Insist that your partner helps." This is a cool call for husbands (like me) to help in parenting, isn't it?
Source: What advice would you give to a new mum about raising kids? at Yahoo! Answers
- You won't need half the crap that you bring to the hospital with you. And it will be a pain in the butt to carry it all home.
- There are tons of stupid baby gadgets out there. Don't get suckered into things like baby wipes warmers, knee-pads for crawlers, etc.
- It will be much harder than you ever expected, and so much more rewarding than you ever expected.
- Let your partner help. Insist that your partner helps.
- Even with a newborn, you need time alone. Give the baby to your partner, a grandparent, anything, and get out of the house for an hour, ALONE! Get a pedicure, buy a book, or just go grocery shopping by yourself, at least once a month.
So now we turn to Dads for some tips on how to help.
A site suggests eight ways that both Dad and Mom can bond with the child together:
Source: Bonding with Daddy at kidshealth.org
- participating together in labor and delivery
- feeding (breast or bottle); sometimes dad forms a special bond with baby when handling a middle-of-the-night feeding and diaper change
- reading or singing to baby
- sharing a bath with baby
- mirroring baby's movements
- mimicking baby's cooing and other vocalizations — the first efforts at communication
- using a front baby carrier during routine activities
- letting baby feel the different textures of dad's face
|I took this photo of my daughter on her birth day, and I mean the day|
she was born. I was allowed to go inside the delivery room.
The only things I have not done in the above list was to share a bath with the baby (#4) and to breastfeed the child (#2, LOL). I bottle-fed the eldest when he was an infant. The second child did not go through bottle-feeding, but that's another interesting story.
Some of you might think I did nothing else but help out. Let's put it this way: Yeah I had to sacrifice some sleep and social activities to help out, but I was as busy (or maybe even busier) than you at the office, volunteer service work and blogging.
At the end of the day, it's a question of what's important to you the moment the door of your home. On several occasions upon coming home, I stop at the gate before entering to say a prayer: May I leave the office outside of this gate, just as I leave home every time I go to work.