Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Speaking the Love Language of "Words of Affirmation"

From this post on, allow me to dwell on each love language I listed in my earlier post. Let me start with "Words of Affirmation."

Mano Po. From the standpoint of Love Languages, Mano Po is a strong word of affirmation for the father from the children. Photo extracted from revcruz at Flickr.com (http://www.flickr.com/photos/revcruz/3273660240/)
The words "mano po" are strong words of affirmation for the parents from
children. We return such honor by saying, "Mabait na bata." (Good Kid!)
Photo extracted from "revcruz" at flickr.com/photos/revcruz/3273660240/

How does one speak that language? How do we communicate with him?

In my experience, you'd get the hint that your loved one's Love Language is "Words of Affirmation" when your loved one:
  1. blushes when you say, "hey, you did a great job!"
  2. does more for you every time he/she hears the words "Thank You"
  3. softens like marshmallow when you say, "I Love You!"
  4. and so on and so forth ... words-response, words-response, words-response
Get the picture?

To a "Words of Affirmation" person, anything that's not spoken, does not exist, and therefore just cannot be true. Unless you say it, it's not true. You like my work? Say it! You love me? Say it!

If you don't say it, I won't hear it!

People with this love language are very sensitive about words. They just don't hear the words per se, but also how you say the word. They would know if you're serious or not.

Do all descriptions happen to fit you? If so, please read on....

How do "Words of Affirmation" people see others?

If your love language is Words of Affirmation, be aware that:
  1. when you think someone is stingy with words, and seems to enjoy wasting your time doing nothing but stare at each other's brow, that loved one's love language may be Quality Time;
  2. when someone begins to annoy you by his/her repetitive mention of how he/she likes what you gave him/her four million years ago, then that person's love language may be Receiving Gifts;
  3. when you think someone's weird because every time you think he/she is going to whisper something to you, he/she violates your physical space by hugging you or kissing you, then that person's love language may be Physical Touch;
  4. when you think someone complains too much because you didn't do this and you didn't do that, that person's love language may be Acts of Service
There are of course more signs than what I have already mentioned, but I hope you begin to see some pattern that you may derive from your own kids.

I do not honestly think love language can be manualized. But this post is an attempt towards that direction. Men like manuals. Here it is, man. This is better than none.

Kids look up to one's Daddy for wisdom. When you know what the love language of you child is, you exhibit wisdom.

Then, they will say, "Daddy, you're a genius!" How does that feel? Is it worth it? You bet!

May your son model on you rightly.


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